tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4893009154839103053.post6664480135833964679..comments2023-06-25T00:24:58.758-07:00Comments on Jazzy's place: Back to Basics my 100th post!!Justinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06195870059477025705noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4893009154839103053.post-24702423489579841552011-04-28T05:02:03.024-07:002011-04-28T05:02:03.024-07:00Oh dear Justine, I feel for you. It seems you two ...Oh dear Justine, I feel for you. It seems you two are almost living seperate lives under the same roof. In fact some of your post makes me feel very angry with your OH, he doesn't deserve you at all. <br /><br />He didn't tell you about his balance transfer because he thought you would be smug, as it was your suggestion. What a nasty thing to say. If he had any balls about him he should have said 'I took your advice and it worked, thank you'. <br /><br />Isn't marriage supposed to be a relationship where two people work together? Shouldn't both partners be understanding of each others needs and feelings. He obviously doesn't give a toss about yours, where as you are trying your best to make things work. If he cannot contribute to a big purchase which is needed, then he does not own half of it. You pay, and it's yours. <br /><br />You two need to sit down together and have a serious talk about money. His large debt is not your responsibility unless he changes his ways and starts to respect you a bit more. If he refuses to discuss, tell him to take his large debt and go and live elsewhere.<br /><br />Never ever be gratefull to a man who does not treat you properly, and by that I mean as an equal. I have been taken for a mug in the past, never again will I let that happen. <br /><br />Sorry for the rant, but I feel quite strongly about it. I Feel better now I've said it. Dont forget, you have lots of people who read your blog, not just those who register as followers. We are here for you.Meanqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02705837426373680532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4893009154839103053.post-48652255499786834402011-04-26T03:23:12.498-07:002011-04-26T03:23:12.498-07:00It really seems as though you are doing your best....It really seems as though you are doing your best. But it's vital that you share financial concerns with OH and he shares his with you. You need to work together on this.<br /><br />Angela's idea of a retractable line over the bath is a good one, and something I used to do when I had a flat. I also used to hang a line straight across my bedroom, I just put a cup hook in the wall on either side of the room and had a length of clothes line that I cut to fit exactly, great for quickly drying the larger items, sheets, towels etc, and you can just keep your bedroom door closed if you have visitors.<br /><br />As Angea says eat lots of salads and also seasonal foods. Shop in the supermarket late when they have their 10p bargains and fill the freezer up with them for future use. <br /><br />Hope some of this helps.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177854521955532744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4893009154839103053.post-3464134176673088762011-04-26T00:14:58.472-07:002011-04-26T00:14:58.472-07:00Sharing your frustration here - just got the enexp...Sharing your frustration here - just got the enexpected tax bill sorted, and now facing a £550 dental bill. One step forward and two back!! <br />Laundry - good site here about frequency [http://www.realsimple.com/home-organizing/cleaning/laundry/when-to-wash-it-handbook-00000000035143/index.html] and I use a retractable 4-line airer over the bath.<br />Energy- you really need to get OH to sit down and talk this through with you, because it is causing you needless stress and if you bottle it up, you'll end up exploding! Try and explain that to him.<br />FOOD -Be glad of the warmer weather - more salads and less oven use! check out shirley goode's website for ideas - she's a bit crazy but aren't we all! [http://shirleygoode.blogspot.com/]<br />Hang in there Jazzy, you are doing great, honest!Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13494078135251214182noreply@blogger.com